Premature Ejaculation Part 2

What can you do to delay ejaculation?
The best way to fighting premature ejaculation is learning how to identify and control the sensations leading up to orgasm. Once you have an idea about your ‘point of no return’ you should be able to direct stimulation from your partner leading up to orgasm and use some of the following techniques:

The Masters and Johnson method requires a great deal of patience and practice, but is very effective. The best way to practice this method is with a caring lover, although you can try to prepare by yourself. With your partner, engage in non-coital stimulation (like masturbation or oral sex) and gradually allow yourself to reach that point just before ejaculation. At that point, signal your partner to stop (with a light squeeze or sound) and allow yourself to partially lose your erection. Repeat these steps several times to get the hang of it. You should practice these steps for several days before you attempt intercourse.

Once you are ready to try intercourse, lay on your back and direct your partner to slowly allow you to penetrate. As soon as you feel that you are about to climax, signal to your partner or give a gentle push upward. Relax for a bit, then begin again. You should soon be able to control your ejaculation and enjoy having sex.

This method is extremely effective, but it could take weeks before you get it just right. Just be patient and try not to put too much pressure on the situation. If you don’t get it the first time, shrug it off and remember that you are working towards something that takes time. If you still have trouble, don’t hesitate to contact a sex therapist for guidance.
The squeeze technique is a variation of the Masters and Johnson method, except that your partner squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before the point of climax to essentially 'cancel' the orgasm. The ‘squeeze’ reduces the erection by forcing blood out of the penis.

The Masters and Johnson, and the squeeze techniques were most often used when I was a surrogate.
Desensitizing creams are products which purport to lessen the sensations felt by men during intercourse so that they can last longer. The downside is that many men feel that the creams make intercourse less pleasurable by decreasing stimulation.
Masturbation is a technique used by many young men to increase their level of control. It is thought that masturbation before sexual activity will lessen the amount of desire a man feels thereby increasing control. This technique is not very effective, however, as level of arousal is only part of what contributes to premature ejaculation.

Condoms are an effective means of reducing the amount of stimulation experienced during sex. Some men find that a condom helps them prevent premature ejaculation by lowering their arousal. If one condom does not decrease the stimulation enough, then put on one more. Condoms provide excellent protection against STDs and pregnancy, so they’re beneficial on many levels.

Sexual positions can affect a man's ability to control his ejaculation. The typical ‘missionary’ position (on top of your partner) is not the best position while attempting to control ejaculation. Try laying on your back, allowing the partner to control the speed and intensity. In this position you are more relaxed, and can guide your partner easily.


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